Card Seven: 5 of Cups

Seventh House: 5 of Cups

Relationships and partnerships are defined by disappointment, what doesn't work out, what doesn't connect, bridges burned, doors closing, things going 'wrong', mistakes, errors, messes.

From this comes the solid foundation (castle in distance) of what is wanted. So using the - to get to the + as it were.

Not being led astray by what the 'other' is doing. it would be too easy to see what's not going according to the plan set out by your own ego. You don't know, can't know what someone else is feeling or doing. Don't guess.

Saying goodbye to some relationships. But the cups behind show a lot of good is here and waiting if you can take your eyes off what you DON'T WANT and what u have and want. Go from there.

Past relationships are easy to get dragged into again - facing left, the figure looks at the actions of spilled milk (or whine...haha this was a typo but I'll leave it in). Is it wine or blood? Who cares. It's spilled. Move on.

Standing complaining and not cleaning up or trying to, will only delay healing.

Any partnership now is faced with the question - how do we resolve this? How do we clean this up? At least you both know what you have to work on. Makes life easier than being in the dark. So divisions and boundaries help.

Emotional upset is far worse than any physical stress. This is a cups card. Your heart is heavy, and you're letting past disappointment ground you down too far. Stay buoyant. The heavy feeling can just as easily be turned to lightness if there's willingness. Not all cups are spilled and never are - is it half full or empty?

suffering a loss

letting go of a hope
giving up the win
experiencing a setback
being defeated
having a possession taken away
saying good-bye

feeling bereft

breaking up a relationship
feeling deprived of love
longing to be reunited
grieving
feeling sorrow

feeling regret

being disappointed by events
crying over spilt milk
wanting to turn back the clock
wishing for what might have been
believing you made the wrong choice
acknowledging mistakes

Five of Cups - Disappointment is the result of emotional attachment to an expectation that has gone unfulfilled. The "negative" mind views this as a loss and the outcome is sadness and heartache, which takes a while to heal. You find it hard to explain the turmoil you feel inside, the lack of harmony. You never sufficiently appreciate something until you have lost it. Letting go of a person or a lifestyle takes time. You are experiencing grief and learning to transcend deep loss. When something you have put your heart and soul into has not worked out, you experience disappointment, loss of harmony and doubt in the very beliefs that have sustained you. Turning your grief inward is appropriate for a short time. Actual healing takes place when you throw off the sorrow, pick up the pieces and renew your interactions with loving friends.

Focus all your energy on a new project. Set your goals, but live in the moment. Release your attachment to "expected" outcomes and "cross the bridges as you come to them." Release yourself from heartache - accept your loss and release the sorrow. Make a conscious, determined choice to pick up the pieces and move forward towards your future - seek a new beginning.

Freedom and uncertainty - a multiplicity of choice at the emotional/creative level. The dilemma - how to preserve the order and discipline from your foundation while moving forward. Movement, but the activity is within a limited range while there is pause for reparation by the heart. Represents lack of movement, a pause. Testing the waters of your emotional world, determining where and how to enhance it. The beginning of the need for priorities to grow into the extensions of self, family and close friends. On the positive side of this coin you see an easy going, light-hearted nature, agreeability, adaptability, openness, multifaceted personality, refreshing presence, emotional independence, unfettered creative originality. Sadness, disappointment, frustration, guild/shame/conscience, hesitation when appropriate. The positive effect of a brainstorming mind on the emotions.

Questions to Answer: What does it seem you have lost? What do you despair over? What are you disillusioned or disappointed with? What do you feel sorry about? What are some possible alternatives to what you have lost? What awaits your attention? What have you learned from your mistakes?